"Old mate, I trust you about as far as I could comfortably spit out a rat." – Douglas Adams
One of the most frequent causes of stress in modern life is having to prove that we are telling the truth. They just don’t believe your word anymore. In this case, "they" can mean doctors, employers, friends and enemies. I’m currently trying to get back my medical assistance from Medicaid. They don’t believe anything I say or write unless I can get ten people to back it up, in writing, in triplicate. Unfortunately, my Mother is also going through the same exact thing with her medical insurance company. Ah, the family that fills out medical applications together stays together, doesn’t it? It can seem like a huge mountain to climb when they don’t believe you, but it can be done.
Don’t Take It Personally
There are actually logical reasons why companies and places like Medicaid don’t believe you unless you can show proof. We no longer live in little villages, where you automatically knew if someone was lying to your face or not. They probably grew up with not only you, but your family and the friends you hang out with. Nowadays, we’re lucky if we know WE are, let alone a complete stranger carrying a pile of application forms.
Sometimes, to try and calm down, I try to place myself in the worker’s shoes. They are trying to get a job done in the most efficient way they know how without getting fired. They also are not the ones who decide what forms I have to fill out and what I have to prove. The shadowy bosses who usually work in another state are the decision makers. This helps me realize that the other person is trying to help, even if they are a bit impersonal or brusque about it.
Carry On As Usual
There are days when it seems you just can’t win. No one seems to believe you. Expect those. If you go into your day expecting no one to believe you, then you won’t be disappointed and stressed when you discover that they don’t believe you. You won’t win a thing by arguing. Just keep carrying on as usual, proving that you have been telling the truth. Jump through the hoops and ask if there are any more hoops to jump through.
If a friend or family member doesn’t believe you, which can prove to be a bit trickier to deal with. The best way to do it is just get on with your life. Don’t waste your time arguing — that makes you look guilty. Keep on acting as usual and over time, your friend or family member will start to believe you. This, of course, depends entirely on the paranoia levels of your friends and family. Try to see out of the world through their eyes.
Try to take some time out every day for some deep breathing and a chance to relax in the moment. Things will get better, but you have to be patient.
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